Prepare for change.
Hmm? That statement is a contradiction of terms, isn’t it: When you truthfully consider change?
We may think we are prepared for change that comes in our lives but we normally aren’t. Most people, by observation of self and others, tend to be creatures of complacency and habit. We like homeostasis. To think we are in a neutral state, but also to think we are ready and willing to change.
I say, “Hogwash!”
Normally, no one is as prepared as we think we are regarding change in our lives.
You may ask what this has to do with homeschool and why is it on a homeschool blog.
I’d like to introduce myself. My name is Valerie Wesley. I am a late 30’s wife and mother. I have been married to my dear husband for 16 years and we have 4 children ranging in ages from 20 to 11 years.
Needless to say, a lot of change has happened in our lives. Much we didn’t know was happening in the moment and only upon reflecting and looking back did we notice had happened.
God has been so gracious to us over the years!
A friend recently asked me for information in choosing a homeschool curriculum for her preschooler.
(Please know, this is one of my favorite subjects! Everything homeschool! Oh! How I could talk for days!!! Hence the blog post! 😉)
Although, upon closer personal contemplation, in response to her, I quickly realized that my thoughts and beliefs on teaching preschoolers had changed, much to my surprise! And, quite without my knowledge or recognition!
When I had a preschooler, I wanted to have her be more intellectual than her peers. I wanted her to know how to count higher, read more words, and memorize more poetry than other four year olds that we may have come in contact with. Many tears were shed from my sweet baby girl and myself from unrealistic expectations. Please remember- Your children want to please you and they will try so hard to do so. Recognize their darling attempts and willingness to try with sweet encouragement and appreciation.
I say those things with a hint of sadness now; when at the time, I was foolishly and stubbornly prideful in my reasoning.
For this unnoticed change, rumination, and grace given by God to reconsider, I am extremely thankful. I didn’t know I wanted or needed change. I am thankful that our Heavenly Father didn’t leave me or us there though. He graciously grew me and worked in my life in continued sanctification.
For my thoughts and beliefs have changed about homeschooling preschoolers.
Read to them. Read to them. Read to them! 1000’s of books! Get yourselves a local library card, then wear it out by checking out a ton of books and resources! Visit your library during their preschool lap sits, story times, and craft days. State parks have many homeschool days and from what I’ve witnessed, park staff and rangers will gladly share their knowledge with you and your little ones.
Teaching counting? Why not let your little one count small (safe/non choking hazard) objects? Sort them! Group them! Divide them!
Looking to enrich fine motor skills? Allow your beloved preschooler to cut flowers out of your free copy of Better Homes & Gardens. Encourage her to paste them around the base of her letter ‘B’ beehive with four baby bumblebee’s unreservedly glued above!
I agree with many of the methods of the Charlotte Mason philosophy. Allow little children to interact with their environment and nature while training & guiding their minds toward thinking about why things naturally function the way they do.
You know how your child learns. Hopefully, you have an understanding of how their magnificent mind works to figure out and reason through life around them. You may be a homeschooling proficient or just considering homeschooling, therefore you have already contemplated how to tailor your child’s education. You want what is best for them and you have an excellent head start in being able to lead them in early education. Be encouraged! Eventually they will learn to write in cursive and multiply, but it doesn’t have to be today, or tomorrow, six months from now, or next year! I am not saying not to encourage them, nor to set reasonable expectations, but if you have a preschooler, I ask you to consider letting them be a preschooler. This is the only time they will have in their lives to be little. Also this is the only time in your life that you will have for them to be little. Enjoy it.
Times will change. Those babies will change. And by God’s grace, you’ll change for the better too!